Sunday, August 17, 2014

A fitting response

I have been indignant. And very annoyed. But I am proud of myself that I kept it together.

The past two weeks have been very strange. I was subjected to some angry outbursts from members of the Soto Zen Facebook group. The very first day I was there, I received some extremely inappropriate private messages. You can get a sense of how bad these messages can be from Tutteji Wachtmeister Dai Osho's page. I decided very quickly that I would leave the site, but not without clarifying each and everything that needed to be clarified. I had already gotten into a few discussions. Over the subsequent days, I got into discussions on even more topics: the place of narcotic substances  in Buddhism, Buddhist monism, et cetera.

The trouble with these discussions is that you are often discussing matters which require many years of education. It is impossible to convey the answers to questions that you have arrived after years of study in a two or three sentences. Or even two or three paragraphs (example: quantum tunneling).  The bigger issue was this: there was the constant annoyance of insinuations and allegations. I was accused of trolling the very first day (I was simply questioning concepts like "karma"). What really happened was that as soon as I received the first two messages, I decided to leave the group - but not without quashing the allegation and insinuations that had by then been made. (Another constant was the insinuation that I was actually somebody else. The name "Mary" was thrown around.) I have mentioned elsewhere what I did as soon as I was told about this. I used some fairly vehement language. I told anyone that was not getting it right quite directly that they were wrong. This is not something I have ever done before. But given the vehemence of the responses (many Buddhists believe quite sincerely in karma, for instance), I had to be even more vehement in my replies. Instead of resolving any issues, this simply escalated matters since the people who held these ideas (such as karma) close to their hearts were not going to easily give up said ideas. What's more- within a week, I was also accused of an instance of anti-Semitism by the admin Alasdair Gordon-Finlayson, and this was really the last straw. It crossed the line. This time I decided that I would not simply reply to specific comments, but would actually form a strategy.

This strategy was as follows: (1) I would post a notice stating clearly what steps I would take; (2) I would respond to every allegation, accusation or insinuation; and (3) I would clarify every single issue that may have been laid at my door.

It ended up being a matter of deploying some very aggressive tactics to ensure that I could get out okay. Without such tactics, things would have been worse. But I will tell you this: if you, as an admin, accuse someone of anti-Semitism, you should expect some pretty aggressive tactics in response. So, that's the full story.

That was a fitting response. And I am sure glad I got out of that Facebook group.

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